French-born novelist, Anaïs Nin expresses this special bond beautifully when she said, “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Making and maintaining a friendship takes energy and time. While some people prefer to spend time alone, others like to socialize and be around other people. There is probably nothing more enjoyable than spending time with them. With a new hometown every 2-3 years meeting people become harder as an adult and keeping one close through the distance is even tougher. There is an incredible weight placed on friendship in the complex age of the Internet and life lived on social media.
Creating a social network both in and outside of our comfort zone or the office gives us value to the meaning of care, commitment and belonging.
For me, the personal interactions, the porch sittin’ moments and strangers who turn into friends are priceless.
I had a chance to spend some rare moments with some friends recently to do just that! My day at the office can be hectic and unpredictable so being able to take my mind off of work is a pretty big deal. I admit, I love to work and I am a work-a-holic! But living where I live now, I find joy in the simple things like catching up with our neighbors and playing with their children. I have learned to appreciate dirt from a little boy’s point of view — I always get a handful whenever I see him and I think it is so adorable. And, of course gardening and the art of porch sittin’. The good ‘ole days of real conversations – a way to disconnect from technology, watch cars drive by, kids playing and a cup of tea or coffee in hand.
As I enjoyed my cup of Joe, I realize successes and triumphant moments is about celebrating the little moments as much as the big events in your life. There are unexplainable simple moments shared over a cup of evening latte at Ghirardelli Chocolate Shop, planting a new plant or eating a hub cap size pancake at Loulou’s. It is a great feeling when strangers evolve and become good friends or an extended member of your family.My view of life is a continuous journey of evolution and progress – like climbing a ladder. The most important quality to have to be a good friend is copious conviviality. I value friends who share the same journey, or someone who can help me reach for the next rung. A team or a partnership sort of speak. These inter-connected relationships have a way of turning an ordinary moment into lasting memories. Regardless if you’re a military family or not, be relatable, open your heart and keep in touch with the people who awakens your inner livelihood and bring you a sense of belonging in a new hometown. Let’s face it, we live in a fast pace society with a schedule to keep, homework to finish and chores to do…